
Now, let's talk about what it takes to actually go through the process of a personal development program (like Toastmasters)—successfully.
1. Understand Consistency

So how do we know when to give-up? Maybe we were committed, passionate, and flexible—all the great characteristics we know—and it still isn't working. What do we do then? Where do we draw the line? The first thing to do is to ask ourselves, were we truly being consistent? Or, were we being "discretionary"? Let's be brutally honest with ourselves.

After being in Toastmasters for several years, I decided to leave. I thought I got the training I needed, and it was time to spend my time giving that training to the world. Sounds good, right? Many years after my long sabbatical I came back with my tail between my legs. I had left the community that had made me great. I realized that ongoing loving Toastmasters' support was the secret to my success.
2. Acknowledge Yourself


We get acknowledged in Toastmasters every time we get evaluated. But the evaluators and other members may only know us from our speeches and short social interactions. They may not know what is going on behind the scenes, in our family lives, with our health issues, or simply the obstacles that we don't want to share publicly. Acknowledging yourself for overcoming your personal challenges (sometimes in order to give a speech or fill a meeting role) is most important.
3. Exercise Patience

There's internal change, and there's external change. Internal change has to deal with mentality, attitude, insight, perspective, desire, motivation, confidence to speak, etc. External change deals with the results we're after like relationships, finances, vitality, or winning a contest. Internal change can cause external change.
Internal change happens in an instant (when the student is ready). That's why some people who attend life-changing seminars (like at district conferences) have their lives consequently go in a noticeable new direction. They look different, they feel different. They have a new energy and a refueled passion about life. They are ready to give their Toastmasters' ice-breaker. These are examples of internal change.

And when external change doesn't come quickly, we need to exercise patience. Giving up is not the answer. Having faith and continuing to be consistent in our plans will eventually yield results.
If you've been to a Toastmasters regional event or Toastmasters international conference, you've probably seen the high caliber of speakers on stage and in competitions. It can be tough to look at those people, and wonder, how we can ever get there? Some new members may feel that that level of competency is out of their reach. Realize that those people have years, if not decades, of experience. Plus, we don't know their personal story. Be patient, and you could surpass them!
4. Teach What You're Learning

In the movie "Training Day" we heard a phrase repeated many times: "It's not what you know, it's what you can prove." This is why it's important not only to learn, but then to teach what we've learned to others. This ensures our ability to prove what we know.
You don't have to be a professional speaker or an accomplished author to be able to share your experiences. The operative word in step number four is "learning" not "learned". Before I made my passion of personal development into my career, I was talking to people about it for thirteen years. That's what had helped me to apply the teachings in my own life—and that's what helps me to apply it today. By sharing the education with others, I also get valuable feedback and perspectives from a variety of people with varying personalities and opinions.

Toastmasters International understands this very well, offering "The Successful Club Series" and the "Leadership Excellence Series". Presenting from these modules allows a club to flourish by teaching members how to become better members in order to make a better club. Becoming a mentor for someone in your club—by teaching what you're learning—will produce similar results.

It's Your Move

Toastmasters is a glowing example of a personal development program that provides so much—communication, leadership, and intercultural understanding with memberships in over a hundred countries around the world. Toastmasters can transform your life, too. (And if you're reading my book, "A Dictionary of Distinctions", remember these four cornerstones as you flip through chapters.)
Let's love the world together...
Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary
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"Three Critical Steps to Starting a Personal Development Program RIGHT"
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