“I need you, like a poet needs the pain.”
~ Bon Jovi
~ Bon Jovi

Hey there everyone!!
It’s fascinating the various ways in which persons with disabilities are regarded and treated in our society/culture. Throughout my life, I have dealt with several disabilities, friends and families with disabilities, and have noticed how thousands of people respond to those disabilities.
What I share, therefore, is my experience, and it does not necessarily reflect the views of all people with disabilities. Nevertheless, I believe my understanding of human psychology and spiritual development would have the following points be beneficial to anyone and everyone, regardless of any disability that may be present.
1. Don’t Over-Compensate for My Minimal Compensations
Yes, people with disabilities have some perks from governments, corporations, and even the general community. Some seem to believe that these “perks” more than compensate for the disability itself (verbally and/or energetically). It does not.
These are only small examples of a multitude of experiences that cannot easily be conveyed in the scope of one article. More generally, it just costs people with disabilities at least twice the money as the average person just to be functional in society.
2. Don’t Treat My Blessings as Your Prerequisites

I get a 2-for-1 deal on movies and many attractions. Some people have just come to expect that as perk of our friendship. That’s fine – I like helping people save money. However, with every power comes great responsibility. Why not strain your neck a little bit, so we can sit up front and so I can actually see more clearly? Why not make an effort to share visual information that I may be missing, especially if it is pertinent to a storyline or an interactive experience? Yes, I understand the power of an authentic request, too.
3. Your Perceived Disability is Only a Subset of My Disabilities

Physical abuse and sexual abuse are not disabilities and many people need to deal with these serious life challenges. However, people with disabilities are more likely to have experienced physical or sexual abuse statistically. We don’t need to look that up, because a predator would logically target someone who is physically or mentally unable to respond.
4. Disabilities Compound on Each Other

Each category has within it a subset of infinite categories. For example, in accessibility, we have software accessibility, which has web site accessibility compliance, which has HTML language specifications and the Accessible Rich Internet Applications layer. If you’ve never heard these terms in this category, then consider all the things you may not be aware of in all the other categories.
5. Though Things Look Better, They Are Actually Worse


As an example, Apple is horrible as complying at accessibility standards and have, in that sense, prevented me and thousands of other people from making iPhone applications and providing more value and solutions to society.
6. Help Without Doing -- Be Empowering

When I was moving into a new apartment, I asked one of my close friends to come over and help me assemble my IKEA furniture. When my friend arrived, I thought he would start opening boxes right away. Rather, he just sat there and said, “You are doing all the assembly yourself... I’ll be your eyes. When you need to see something, let me know. Now go assemble your furniture.” What a great feeling to know that I assembled my own furniture! (And have such a great friend.)
7. Don’t Assume My Desires

Firstly, even if I cannot go, I will feel included as a valuable member of the group, instead of feeling forgotten about, left-out, and isolated. Second, I may be able to find ways to make the situation work (as people with disabilities are usually very resourceful and creative). Finally--although least significantly--I may be able to get us discounts, front-row, front-of-the-line, or V.I.P. service. :)
8. Everything is Part of a Spectrum

Did you hear in the news recently how a legally blind woman could not get seats to a Stevie Wonder concert? How ironic, especially when venues tout that they have “accessible seating”. For the visually impaired, sitting in the front row is not a luxury, but a necessity, and venues could allow for that provision.
9. When We Help People with Disabilities, We Are Helping Everybody

What happened to all for one and one for all? Aren’t we all in this together? We may easily dismiss someone with a disability, and yet many of us will end up with a disability (statistically) before we die.
OK, so you may not know anyone with a disability, so why not just help people in difficult situations? Help people overcome physical pain. If you don’t know people in difficult situations, you could simply make difficult conversations easy. There are so many different ways to be a giving person. Check out these simple attributes of cool people that we could apply ubiquitously.


This is about people with disabilities, so this is about everybody. This is about you. This is about our world.
“Keep on fighting the good fight and/or
allowing yourself to feel and let things go.”
~ Allison Bernadette Long
Let’s love the world together...
Love,
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary
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