Hey there everyone!!

It's not what you look at that matters; it's what you see.

“I can't change your life, but if I can change the way you view your life, your whole life is going to change.”

I heard those words from Ellen Kreidman, in her program, “Light His Fire/Light Her Fire”, over ten years ago. And that's a message I convey to my audiences as a motivational speaker.

The next logical question might be, “but how do I change the way I see my life?"

Before we go there, it's important to understand that the first step is to stop trying to change our lives.

Stop Trying to Change Your Life

One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can't change.

It's another contradiction in personal development -- to utilize our personal power by taking action to change our lives, and to accept things the way they are, letting go of all attachments.

When we live in the now, and just be, life happens. What must be or should be transform into mere preferences that only might be.

Change the Way You See Your Life

The truth you believe and clng to, makes you unavailable to hear anything new.

After giving that advice for so many years, I've forgotten to apply it to myself. I can't change my life... But if I can change the way I see my life, then my whole life is going to change.

What will be the new view of my life?

See Every Experience As Valuable

In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.

Does every cloud have a silver lining? Can we find positive in any experience, and opportunity within every single challenge?

Leadership coach, John C. Maxwell, has been know to say that “we either win, or we learn”. While that's an empowering context, I just don't see it applicable in 100% of situations. Sometimes we do everything right, and there is nothing to learn, except to continually exercise patience and continue practice.

We all should know that diversity makes for a rich tapestry and we must understand that all the threads of the tapestry are equal in value no matter what their color.

We all should know that diversity makes for a rich tapestry and we must understand that all the threads of the tapestry are equal in value no matter what their color.

Every situation doesn't necessarily have a lesson, but every experience can have value. The value may be to get practice and exercise patience. The value may be to have a contrasting negative experience, so that we could more appreciate positive experiences in the future.

The value may be to foster more empathy and compassion, so that we can relate to other individuals with similar adversities in the future.

Don't See Life As Personal

When you know too much psychology, you can't get mad....

Doesn't it seem like all the bad things in life always happen to us? Why? We do intellectually understand that bad things happen to everybody, right?

Instead of seeing life as “happening to us”, consider that life is “happening for us”. The universe, physics, or Goddess, doesn't have a bias towards our life. We'll all experiencing the game of life.

Don't See Life As Being Pervasive

Be the person you needed when you were younger.

When something catastrophic happens in one area of our life, it can be easy to see our whole life falling apart. Yes, everything is interconnected and we are all one. But the oppose profound truth is that we can, and do, compartmentalize so many things in our lives.

An empowering way to see our lives is to compartmentalize a bad childhood, past traumas, and numerous failures. The past does not equal the future, and reflecting on things of the past only serves to keep the past alive.

Use your imagination, for it is never too late to have a good childhood.

Don't See Life As Permanent

When you finally realize that nothing is permanent in this life, you will become more tolerant, more forgiving, and less judgmental.

The only constant in our society is change and everything is temporary, including life itself.

It would be miserable if some world calamities would exist for all of eternity. But all of our world calamities, too, shall pass.

See every moment of your life as a unique and distinct experience of consciousness.

Live With Hope

Apocaloptimist -- Someone who knows it's all going to shit, but still thinks it will turn out OK.

What meaning will you make of your life? Get over the petty problems, and live life with an energy of optimism, joy and enthusiasm.

Business owner Ed Courtney says, “If we lose our money, we’ve lost a little. If we lose our health, we’ve lost a lot. If we lose our courage, we’ve lost it all.”

Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. But seeing tomorrow as a better place than today, actually makes today the best place.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary