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Friday, June 14, 2002

Manage & Utilize

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Manage & Utilize

Managing your state is having the ability to control your body, thoughts, and emotions at a given time.  For example, our best friend died last week, and now we need to give a job interview.  Well, we need to manage our state and be effective in the interview.  We can do this by generating ourselves in a certain way that causes our body, thoughts, and emotions to be 100% focused on the interview.  And lots of personal development programs teach us how to do this (NLP is probably one of the best programs for this).

Those technologies are great.  But there are times when we should just use Gestalt Therapy.  That is, be with our emotions.  Just let it all through.  Let’s not force ourselves to be a certain way all the time.  Yes, there are times we need to suppress, control, or generate our way of being.  But when we get a chance, let it all out.  Let’s not keep it all in our bodies, for it just gets out more slowly, in other ways, and in ways we may not like.

There are times to feel good and there are times to feel bad.  I cried and screamed for 20 minutes last week because I was frustrated at my lack of success.  But as my tears released the poison from my body, afterwards, I was on top of the world again.  Like Chumbawamba says, “I get knocked down, but I get up again.”  The secret is not keeping ourselves up; the secret is getting back up when we’re down (or once we’re “finished” being down).

This is called my “Feel Bad Strategy.”  One important cheviot, however, is never to make any decisions when we’re feeling bad.  When we feel bad, we’re usually in place where we want to do something drastic.  If we were in more of a powerful place, we may not want to do something so drastic.  So let’s keep our decision making exercises to the times when we feel good.

Let's love the world together...

Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

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