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Monday, April 29, 2013

From 18 years ago

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If you enjoyed my book, “A Dictionary of Distinctions”, you’ll love these 42 extra distinctions that have never yet been published.
http://ordinarysparks.blogspot.ca/2013/04/table-of-distinctions.html

Hi there everyone!!

Over half my life ago (back in 1995), I was part of a youth organization called the Central Ontario Regional Parliament.  Part of our experience was to discuss spiritual issues, and I and two other friends wrote this song that was the theme for our weekend.

Cherish The Moment
Danish Ahmed, Kevin Leyton-Brown, Melissa Ledingham
(October 1995 @ the Central Ontario Regional Parliament)

Young child learns to crawl,
Young child wants to grow tall,
Young child listen now,
Be the best crawler you know how.   

Read the full lyrics on my blog:
http://ordinarysparks.blogspot.ca/2013/04/cherish-moment.html

Children’s paradise, parent’s dream, architectural wonder and a solution to environmental crises - you'll never look at schools the same way again!  Check out this great movie my friend Natalia Kantor is producing.
http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-green-school-effect

Let’s love the world together...

Love,
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary
http://www.ordinarywords.com
+1 (647) 439-5011

P.S. Watch “The Masters” Touch
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Healing The World

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Healing The World
Danish Ahmed & Laura Montgomery
1996, 1997 @ Ontario Youth Parliament

School keeps dragging on and on,
And my relationships just keep on going wrong.
Fears for my future are filling my head,
Should I give up or keep forging ahead?

        Well grades will come and friends will change.
        I know I'll find a career in time.
        I know I just need to take some time,
        To start healing my bruises,
        And recovering my wounds.
        And I'll find the remedy,
        And share it openly,
        Healing the World . . .

Around the world, hunger's everywhere,
Or will we die first from diseases that we share?
Economies are getting so low,
There's homeless people with nowhere to go.

        Well, we have the means to find the cures.
        We'll find a way to share wealth in time.
        We know we just need to take some time,
        To start healing our bruises,
        And recovering our wounds.
        And we'll find the remedy,
        And share it openly,
        Healing the World . . .

But what do I do when all goes wrong?
When it seems to me that all my joy is gone?
When I feel that there is no love,
No shred of hope, no one listening above?

        Well, we have resources: friends and faith.
        We know that love is surrounding us,
        We know we just need to take some time,
        To start healing our bruises,
        And recovering our wounds.
        And we'll find the remedy,
        And share it openly,
        Healing the World . . .

        We'll find that remedy,
        And share it openly,
        Healing the World . . .

The Pain Game

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Games we played with such detail
Never knowing what was fake or real
Never knowing how to win
Keep going over it back again
I asked myself the question why
But all I could do was sigh
As the games kept playing . . . 

If I’m not sane, then I’m lying
If a poet needs the pain, then I’m dying
All I know is that I’m trying
To say I love you. 

All I want to do is be true
But I keep feeling the fool
I want to tell you so bad
Every time I think, I feel sad
I pick up the phone to talk
All I feel is the knock that is never answered.

If I’m not sane, then I’m lying
If a poet needs the pain, then I’m dying
All I know is that I’m trying
To say I love you. 

They all speak in such rhymes
I want to let my true self shine
See, that’s the biggest irony
I care not for this poetry
Send me symbols all you choose
But don’t ever risk to lose
The real game of life.

If I’m not sane, then I’m lying
If a poet needs the pain, then I’m dying
All I know is that I’m trying
To say I love you. 

If this song is too long, then I’ve lost you
But the song is too short to tell you
How much I really love you.

Sunday, April 28, 2013

Cherish The Moment

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Cherish The Moment
Danish Ahmed, Kevin Leyton-Brown, Melissa Ledingham
(October 1995 @ the Central Ontario Regional Parliament)

Young child learns to crawl, 
Young child wants to grow tall, 
Young child listen now, 
Be the best crawler you know how.   

Feel this moment,
It is here for you now.
Use the moment,
Anyway you know how.

Hold the moment,
Up for all to see.
Share the moment,
And make it the best it can be.

Time comes and time will go, 
You’re in charge, make it flow. 
Decide when you want to fly, 
Flap your wings, soar up to the sky.

Feel this moment,
It is here for you now.
Use the moment,
Anyway you know how.

I’ve learned so much today, 
I hear what you have to say. 
I see you face to face, 
Come and join me in God’s embrace.

Feel this moment,
It is here for you now.
Use the moment,
Anyway you know how.

Hold the moment,
Up for all to see.
Share the moment,
And make it the best it can be.


Thursday, April 25, 2013

Who’s your master?

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Hey there everyone!

A master can have a negative connotation, implying dominance, perhaps with a slave relationship.

A master can also have an empowering connotation, denoting a proficient teacher, wise and humble enough to inspire a willing pupil.

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http://ordinarysparks.blogspot.ca/2013/04/table-of-distinctions.html

Let’s love the world together...

Love,
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary
http://www.ordinarywords.com
+1 (647) 439-5011

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Unkind & Self-Centered

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Here’s another distinction that may seem apparent at first.  Well, I wanted to deal with what may be a very controversial issue but didn’t have quite the right context (another book) in which to produce such a stance.  So this is as good as it gets.

I really like the Golden Rule, but think that it has a very big flaw (I know I may be being very controversial).  The Golden Rule, for those who need a little reminder, is doing unto others as you would have others do unto you [Matthew 7:120].  In other words, treat other people as you want them to treat you.

Kindness is doing something out of love for someone else.  If we like hugs, we should be kind and hug other people.  That’s the Golden Rule right?  Well, that may be kind, but it is also self-centered.  It is self-centered because it assumes that other people like to be hugged.  They may not.  In fact, they may really hate being hugged.  In some cultures, hugging the wrong person at the wrong time can actually be grounds for capital punishment!

To remove ourselves form self-centeredness, let us try to imagine what the other person wants.  What the other person wants may be completely contrary to what we may want.  They say that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.  Well, that’s also true with wants, desires, goals, dreams, and so on.

It is easy to be kind and more difficult to be less self-centered.  We can learn to be less self-centered by trying to learn about the wants and needs of others.  For example, Dr. John Gray says that when women are upset they would like their men to talk to them and console them (as a generalization).  He also says that when men are upset, they want their significant other to literally leave them alone.  Those are complete opposite desires for men and women.  We can be kind all day long thinking that we are giving our spouse what we would want but we would actually be hurting them.

Self-centeredness is about being selfish.  Being self-centered is an honest, natural, common and many times a subconscious perspective we all fall pray to.  The good news is that a little knowledge, like in the previous example, can go a long way.  The previous example deals simply with gender, dividing our population in half.  Each individual has specific wants and needs, and learning to do what other people want you to do, not what you want to do for them, is the foundation of a greater self.

Anne Frank said “Despite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart.”  I always believed that too yet wondered why I was treated so harshly at times.  Now I know.  Unfortunately, we live in a vast and complex civilization where having a good heart isn’t always enough.  Combining a good heart (kindness) with an open-mind (not being self-centered) is the seed for a happy society.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Self-Respect, Self-Esteem & Self-Image

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I associate self-respect in the paradigm of ethics.  I associate self-esteem in the paradigm of faith.  And, I associate self-image in the paradigm of understanding.

It is possible to have self-respect and very little self-esteem when we follow our guidelines of living ethically, yet don’t believe that we will ever be a success.  We can have self-respect when we feel confident that we are doing everything right and good.  Yet we can still blame ourselves internally for not achieving a certain platitude of status and thus not have any self-esteem.

Interestingly enough, I also believe that it is possible to have self-esteem without self-respect.  Anyone can be in a situation where they feel certain about their destiny and be faith-driven that they will achieve that destiny.  At the same time, the same person may be realizing that to achieve that particular destiny, they need to temporarily make sacrifices or compromises that pass their ethical line.

While certain critics may question the general ethics of this situation, everyone must admit that this situation probably happens much more often than most of us care to admit.  Whether right or wrong, we must commend people who at least employ faith and have self-esteem even though they might be jeopardizing their ethics in the moment and admit that they do not have self-respect.  After all, Robert Byrne says “In order to preserve your self-respect, it is sometimes necessary to lie and cheat.”

Why is it important to learn this distinction?  Well, I find that most people group self-respect and self-esteem together.  Doing so, when they lack self-respect, they tend to also believe that they  lack self-esteem.  When they lack self-esteem, they tend to think they also lack self-respect.  Understanding this distinction can give us a great motivation boost.  We may not lack both.  Realizing this fact can put us on the right course.

If we lack self-esteem only, then we might want to consider changing some of our strategies of achieving our goals, or modifying some of our goals to be more in alignment with our purpose in life.  If we lack self-respect only, we may just want to change our perspective.  Let’s get over it.  We may just be doing a necessary evil that is temporary.  That’s life.

Dexter Yager says that the biggest disease in North America is not cancer and it is not AIDS.  It is a poor self-image.  A self-image is the impression in which we think other people see us.  A good self-image helps us to be more confident, courageous, bold and individualistic.  A poor self-image can be evident when someone is very timid, shy, and consequently very anti-social.

Our self-respect is determined by our childhood experiences, but can be adjusted by evaluating our values and raising our standards.  Self-esteem can be increased through a deeper personal understanding of one self, or by becoming more spiritually oriented.  All three, but particularly a self-image, can be bettered through the many programs of personal and professional development, such as this book.

Understanding who we are, what we want, and how we work, is the basis of all personal development.  I hope this book is helping you realize parts of who you are, what you want, and how you work.  May it therefore also help you increase your self-respect, your self-esteem, and your self-image.  And by golly, if it doesn’t, I won’t be depressed.  Just do me a favor and find yourself another book that does.  There are many out there.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Forgive & Forget

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Forgiving is a conscious choice.  Forgetting is an unconscious act.  It has to be.  If we deliberately try to forget something, then the act of trying to forget actually makes us realize the subject which we were supposed to forget.

You probably have heard the term “to forgive and forget” before.  However, did you ever stop to think of the significance as to why both words are used?  Why don’t we just forgive?  Why don’t we just forget?

The situation of forgiving someone and not forgetting is common.  We believe that we have forgiven someone, but when that someone does something similar to upset us, we automatically remember the incident that we supposedly forgave them for.  If we bring it up, then it is easy to argue that perhaps we never forgave the person in the first place.  But even if we don’t bring it up, our mind goes through some turmoil where we relive the emotions of hurt and anger.

It is also wise to be aware that we sometimes forget incidents where we never forgave a person in the first place.  In this situation, we may consciously feel no hurt, anger, or remorse towards the situation.  After all, we can’t, since we forgot all about it.  But our subconscious mind never forgets.  And, if we haven’t forgiven someone, our subconscious mind still feels the hurt, the anger, and uses that in ways that may not, and probably are not, evident to us.  This is a dangerous place to be.

So, there’s a lot of depth to the phrase “forgive and forget.”  Technically, for the sake of being definitively accurate, it should be “forgive, and then forget.”  Forgiving actually heals the soul.  It doesn’t matter if we’re forgiving someone else, or if we’re forgiving ourselves.

Sometimes when I give a positive personal-growth book to someone I get the response “well, it is just so one-sided.”  So, I’m going to include a quote that doesn’t really agree with my philosophy in this chapter.  However, the underlining message is consistent.  In the book “Success for Dummies,” it states: “To ‘forgive and forget’ is virtually impossible, but you can forgive and remember that you’re giving up the rights for retribution.”

Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily imply reconciliation.  Robert Enright, Ph.D. at the University of Wisconsin says that forgiving is not reconciling.  You can forgive the offender and still choose not to re-establish the relationship.  Just because you forgive an “act” doesn’t mean that you forget the lesson.  If someone hurts you, forgive them.  But don’t put yourself in the exact same circumstances to be hurt again.

One of my favorite quotes is “To err is human; to forgive, divine” by Alexander Pope.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Monday, April 22, 2013

The Masters Touch - New Animation

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Hey there everyone!!

Watch a two-minute musical story of a novice who gets to play with the master...
http://ordinarywords.com/the-masters-touch

Write back and let me know what you think or if I should make other short videos like this.

I just finished watching this movie, and realized it is Crowd Funded!  The world is now being built by grass-roots communities like ours.

Watch the Sirius Trailer/Movie:
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Let’s love the world together...

Love,
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary
http://www.ordinarywords.com
+1 (647) 439-5011

My blog post about taxation:
http://ordinarysparks.blogspot.com/2013/04/taxation-secret-to-financial-freedom.html

Something out of the ordinary:
http://ordinarysparks.blogspot.ca/2013/04/something-out-of-ordinary.html

Greedy & Needy

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Greed and need are similar in that they both put us in a position of desiring more.  They are different because need is natural when we come from a place of lack, whereas greed happens when we already may be coming from a place of abundance.

I think that’s a common definition.  And I disagree with it.

Let’s take money for example - that’s usually a hot one with people.  Some people tend to stop wanting more money at a certain point.  “Well, I have enough.  If I want more, I may look materialistic.”  “It’s not right to want more money.”

Now, let me ask this:  If we’re in a loving relationship, “is it right” to want that relationship to become more intimate and more fulfilling?  If we are in good health, “is it right” to want our bodies to be even healthier, and be more vibrant and energetic?  If we have a good spiritual relationship with our creator, “is it right” to want that relationship to be even stronger and more meaningful?

We all have been conditioned so heavily as a child not to be greedy.  It’s rude, it is unethical, and it is not fair.  While all that may be true, I feel that many people cross the line of understanding the difference between greed and need.

In life, we “need” to always be growing.  We “need” to be improving our family life.  We “need” to be improving our jobs or businesses.  We “need” to be improving ourselves personally.

Greed, in my books (or at least in this particular volume), is when we want something that isn’t rightfully ours.  Stealing, lying to get something extra, or following unethical business practices results in being greedy.  However, wanting more from a fair and free-market society that we earn through sweat equity is not greedy.  The only way that we could be greedy is if we have to take wealth from someone else.  And, if we understand wealth in a free world, we know that the only way to earn wealth is to add or give value to others.

Many personal or professional development programs we have or will take part in will tell us that in order to accomplish anything significant, we must move from a place of “want” to a place of “need.”  (A distinction in the first volume.)  And, if we try to move from want to need, yet still feel subconsciously that our need is really greed, then we will always stay in the “want.”  That’s why understanding this distinction can be so important.

In life, we need to always be changing our goals as we achieve them.  We never “arrive” because doing so makes us complacent and unhappy.  To appear greedy in this progressive journey, then, we must appear to be unappreciative of where we are.  When we lose sight of everything we already have, we look greedy to others.  But, if we appreciate all that we do have, then strive for even more, we simply look like a mover-and-shaker.

I loved the Hacker’s Manifesto when I was a teenager.  I lived by the words of the Mentor.  Here’s an excerpt written in January 8, 1986: “This is our world now... the world of the electron and the switch, the beauty of the baud.  We make use of a service already existing without paying for what could be dirt-cheap if it wasn’t run by profiteering gluttons, and you call us criminals.  We explore... and you call us criminals.  We seek after knowledge, and you call us criminals . . .” [http://www.technozen.com/manifesto.htm]

I took this manifesto to my Grade 6 teacher and friend and showed him how I felt.  And he explained to me that there wouldn’t be a service that I could exploit if it “wasn’t” run by “profiteering gluttons.”  I made another discovery that day.  Our economic system isn’t perfect.  We’ll always be upset at getting charged a dollar or two for our banking transactions.  But at the end of the day, we always have what other economic systems can’t understand: and that’s consumer choice.
   
Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Pressure & Stress

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I was listening to a Mark & Sandy Day tape when I came across this distinction.  I listen to so many tapes that when I get a brainstorm of a distinction, I simply write it down.  Then, when I’m at my computer writing about the distinction, I forget exactly what the distinction was.  So, I usually just think of it again - which I’m sure is sometimes different than what the originator had intended.

I then get this feeling of stress because I don’t know whether to quote my source or not.  I would hate to misquote anyone, but I’d also hate to make something sound like it was mine when in fact it isn’t.  Stress is something that pulls us in different directions.  It is a feeling of overwhelm because we are unsure as to what to do next.

The trick is transforming stress into pressure.  Pressure is simply stress focused in a particular direction.  Pressure pushes us towards a specific action.  With stress we are confused, but with pressure, we can realize what needs to be done next, and go ahead and do it.

Pressure usually is born from our subconscious.  Call it coming from our gut, our intuition, our Holy Spirit, or from God.  It springs from knowing what is ethic, moral and right.  In contrast, when we are doing (or not doing) something that is right, such as evading our creditors, we at least rightly categorize it as stress.

From pressure, I know I simply need to search my archives and find the source.  I need to re-listen or re-read my source to get refreshed.  From that action, I can decide whether quoting is appropriate or not.  But, life isn’t always that simple.  I couldn’t find the tape.  Thankfully, I’ve learned to make use of every situation, however negatively appearing, as positively as I can.  In this situation of describing the distinction, I’m sure Mark and Sandy won’t mind too much.

Harry S. Truman said “If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.”  Rather than coining the cliché “I’m so stressed out!” why not slightly change that to “I’m under a lot of pressure.”  Then, ask yourself where the most pressure is coming from.  Then take action to satisfy that pressure.  That’s a little distinction, but it is powerful.  Often, we don’t feel like taking action to alleviate our stress.  After all, that action can simply spawn further stress.  But if we know we are listening to a particular pressure, we are on a mission.

Don’t let this distinction go to far, though.  Sometimes when we’re stressed, we just need to do the simple things in life.  Relax.  Take a break.  Exercise.  Breathe.  Listen to music.  These activities can often be curative.  There are tons of resources available on coping with stress, such as “The Top 10 Ways to Chill Out when Stressed Out and Uptight” by Dennis Tesdell.  When these fixes don’t work, however, then is the time to examine the pressures in our lives.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Shock & Surprise

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Sometimes people surprise us with their words.  Sometimes people shock us with their words.  What’s the difference?  Intensity.  What’s a factor of intensity?  Time in response.  A shock is instantaneous.  There’s no time to think.  Our bodies simply react from conditioned response.  When we are surprised, however, we have time to consider what was said.  We think about it, and we then evaluate it as being “surprising.”

Anthony Robbins coined a technology called Transformational Vocabulary where he illustrates how changing our vocabulary changes the way we feel.  Instead of saying “I feel frustrated,” say “I feel inconvenienced.”  It truly works.  And it’s not just about making ourselves feel better.  I feel that in this book, I dive into a little more depth by emphasizing how we can switch our words to not only vary our emotions, but vary our impact on other people.

It’s not necessarily about feeling better, but about creating a different sense.  Being surprised, or being shocked is neither entirely negative nor positive.  The power lies in understanding how to make the most use of each word in any given moment.

When presenting to a variety of venture capitalists with new technology ideas, I soon realized that it wasn’t my intent to surprise them.  I wanted to shock them!  See, when someone is surprised, they intellectually try to figure out what caused them to be surprised.  If VC’s have the chance to do that, they can intellectually justify their way out of not giving me any money.  If I shock them, then they have an impulse reaction.  Their subconscious takes over and they automatically take action.  In this situation, shock is better than surprise.

Surprise birthdays, for the most part, should really be called shock birthdays.  People seem to want to have a person show up somewhere and be completely taken aback when they suddenly see all their friends waiting in the dark.  Pulling a “shock” birthday off is really a tough task.  As my friend Lorne Berman says, it causes people to unnecessarily make-up lies and false stories in order to lure the birthday person into shock.

Keep a surprise birthday simply a surprise.  Most people don’t forget when their birthdays are, so they are probably suspicious about other people acting suspicious anyways.  A group of my friends organized a “surprise” birthday where the evening and event was known to the birthday-boy.  However, the activity was kept secret.  This actually had the person feel a sense of anticipation, and look forward to the “surprise” event.  Much more value for much less hassle.

I suspect this concept would even work much better with females.  Dr. John Gray says that regardless the size of an act, women allocate the same number of “points” for good things that guys might do for them.  Love note = 1 point.  Flowers and chocolate = 1 point.  New BMW = 1 point.  The advantage of this type of point system is when men make a date for the future.  Date = 1 point, however, every time the women thinks about the date = 1 point, every time the women mentions the upcoming date to a friend = 1 point.  A man can get tons of points for one act, if he schedules well in the future.

To conclude the distinction, surprise = 1 to infinite points, shock = -1 or +1 point.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Sunday, April 21, 2013

Faith, Hope & Certainty

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I had initially thought that this particular distinction was overdone in many different personal development systems and I wasn’t going to write about it.  I have to be unique, right?  Well, it’s a fundamental principle that I had to employ myself today.

As you know, this is part of my second book. I have hope that my first book will be successful enough to warrant the writing of a second volume.  Hope rarely takes us into action.  Because, in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, “If my first book doesn’t make it, why am I wasting my time writing all of this stuff?”

The transition of hope to faith is determined by evidence.  Evidence doesn’t have to be real, just conceived.  Hence, blind faith is creating or envisioning evidence that others do not see.  I do have some evidence.  After all, my first book was accepted by a publisher for print and distribution.  I guess that’s what helped me to write a couple of chapters for my second book.  But then I got stuck again.  Why was the release of my first book delayed?  Could it be that the publishers are scamming me?  (I can just imagine the faces on my publishers as they’re reading this now.)

The thing with faith is that when we have it one day, we can’t expect it to last for our lifetime.  There will be many “tests of faith.”

Well, I got more proof.  Five copies of my published book arrived at my door.  Yippee!  So I wrote a couple more chapters of Volume II.  Now it seems to be taking forever for the distributors to put my first book into circulation.  Maybe I’ll just wait - just in case.  So I stopped writing for a couple of months.

That’s when I knew it was time for this chapter.  Every successful person that we may know or will hear about always had the attitude that they will succeed.  They don’t wait around for things to happen, they make things happen.  Even if it is uncomfortable, risky, or uncertain.  How much proof do we need?  We constantly want more and that doesn’t make sense!  Let’s just visualize our desired outcome and go for it.

Now certainty creeps into the picture.  Certainty is active faith in all ways.  That is, believing our faith has already been done, and acting as if it is already done.  I send out some of these chapters to an e-mail list of friends (that’s how this whole concept got started for those of you who have asked).  Certainty causes me to put myself on the line and be certain that this book will succeed.  Will I seem cocky having such an attitude?  What if my book doesn’t make it - then what a lousy chapter this will be!

There are different strategies to combat this evil fear.  I use the Vulcan mentality.  What are the chances of making it if we don’t have certainty?  And, what are the chances of making it if we do have certainty?  I want the odds in my favor.

Certainty is always a choice.  Yes, it has risks.  But it has those risks because it also yields the most benefits.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Decision, Circumstance & Responsibility

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We can’t change the world.  But we can change something.  And, if we all change something, then in effect we have changed the world.

There is large polarity in people who think they have no control over their lives, and those who think they control everything.  I believe both are extremes and thus inaccurate.  The question then becomes, what is the proper balance?

There are those who will blame all their failures on their circumstances.  And there are those who will say that we are exactly where we are in life because of every single decision we made in our lives.  I think circumstances do play a role.  About one percent.  Decisions play 99%.

A circumstance is what happens to us.  A decision is what we decide to do about it.  A decision, in effect, then creates new circumstances.  It’s a cycle.  It can be a vicious cycle if we don’t know how to make good decisions, for then we are at the prey of all circumstances.  We become prey to our circumstances when we forget that we have decision making power to change some of our circumstances or the power to cause new circumstances to be (at least in the realm of possibility).

The flip side is that no matter how good we get at making quality decisions, there will always be new circumstances that will push and challenge us.  Thank God.  That’s what makes life interesting.

Again, easier said than done.  What helps me remember is the quote “Success is a journey, not a destination.”  When I find myself in a place where I am dissatisfied with certain aspects of my life, I tend to think that my quality decisions of the past didn’t help.  That’s bad thinking.  Those quality decisions did help me to have a successful journey.  Because it wasn’t a destination, I need to make new quality decisions to change what I am not happy with now.  It’s time to continue the cycle in the direction I want, rather than let those pesky circumstances take over again.

I found myself in this trap not too long ago.  And my awesome sister helped me.  She reminded me of the quote I already knew.  Timing is everything.  That’s why it is so important to share good things with others, because when you need them for yourself, people will give them back to you.

Like a good sister, she also went the extra mile.  She drew up a beautiful “Certificate of Success” which had a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Success is: to laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have succeeded.”

Here’s another strategy.  Be responsible.  Responsibility is the feeling of accountability that allows us to create results, rather than use our circumstances as an excuse to justify our lack of results.  Why are we responsible only for certain things?  Usually at our work and with our family.  Why not hold a level of responsibility to our friends?  A responsibility of having integrity and desire for them to become better people.  Why not hold a level of responsibility to our neighborhoods and communities?  And here’s a concept.  Why not hold a level of responsibility to ourselves?  To be our word.  To keep our promises.  To make our lives complete and to live life fully.  That is called integrity.  We are all responsible for the quality and depth of our own lives.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Morality & Ethics, Character & Integrity

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I have a little notebook which I use to jot down all sorts of notes for me to take action on in the future (I guess a little bit like the main character in the movie “Momento”).  I often get brainstorms of distinctions that I want to include in this book series and rigorously write them down.  Sometimes, and this is one of those times, I absolutely can’t recall what exact distinction I had in mind!  Sometimes I’ll make up a new distinction on the spot.  This chapter will be a little bit different.

Would it be ethical of me to write a chapter in this book without really diving into any particular distinction?  Probably not, based on the title of the book.  Would it be moral of me to do so?  It depends on what my intentions are.  I intend for this chapter to be a special chapter, and to give you something worthwhile within the context of this book.  A “distinctionless” chapter may not meet the rules of ethics, but it does meet the rules of morality.  If, on the other hand, this were to be a paper on a distinction without identifying any distinctions, it too would be without moral.  Since it is a chapter of a book, the morality than finds a place for itself.

Ethics look at specific rules and protocols of a criterion to meet.  Morality is concerned with the overall coherency of a particular question.  Robin Hood may not have had ethics, but he was moral.  Those who play by all the rules, yet seem to give off a bad scent, we know which category they belong in.

Character and integrity are then analogous.  Character has to do with being complete with one’s self, knowing what we have done is right and just.  Integrity has to do with being complete with others, knowing that they feel justly served.  Suppose we get back too much change from a transaction, attempt to rectify the error, but get interrupted and slandered before we have a chance to explain.  Most would probably say “I tried; their loss” and walk away.  There’s nothing wrong with that, but it is a model of character, and not a model of integrity.

What if we were to persist?  Yes, it would be uncomfortable and would feel very unnecessary.  Yet the possible outcome of the other person being overly embarrassed, and heaven forbid, changing their attitude in the future because of it, would certainly be worth the effort.

Can people have integrity without character?  You bet.  Those are usually people who have poor self-esteem.  They habitually disregard their own needs in order to make sure other people’s needs are met.

What’s the moral of the story?  We don’t need to know exactly what the distinction between two words is in order to make use of it.  We simply experiment until we discover what the truth is.  Anytime we catch ourselves being righteous with a particular word, let us try to replace is with so-called synonyms and see what happens.  Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche said “Convictions are more dangerous enemies of truth than lies.”

I’m glad I didn’t have any convictions about what this chapter would be like.  For, in the process, I have created a couple of profound distinctions.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Soul & Spirit

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Try this: “That was a spirited debate.”  Now try: “What a soulful discussion.”  The former may represent energy and passion.  The latter, touching and philosophical.  The distinction is not so much in the definition as it is in the context we use it.

Soul, spirit, whatever we call it, it’s pretty amazing.  It actually encompasses more than we may have thought, once we group it all together.  Realizing that our soul/spirit has a polarity of power, we can really live life by playing with the swap now and then.

“I’m not in high spirits today” tells your soul to retire as well.  Consider something like “I’m doing some soul reflection today.”

“I’m a lost soul” tells your spirits to die.  Consider something like “It’s time I get into the spirit of things.”

Art is great for helping us be more soulful.  Stella Adler says “Life beats down and crushes the soul and art reminds you that you have one.”  Personal development can be great to lift our spirits.  But it is through deep inner reflection that we lift our souls to a greater height.  Personal development isn’t just about reading this book.  It’s also about writing poetry, going out dancing, and being spontaneous.

Live life or life will kill you.
   
(This is a short chapter for a very good reason.)

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Friendly & Sociable

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Friendly people are very personable.  They don’t need a reason to start talking.  It doesn’t matter what the subject is, they just go for it.  They’re enthusiastic, passionate, and lively.

Sociable people are great listeners.  They listen closely to what is being said, and respond intelligently.  They usually are well-spoken, read quite a bit, and have a vast knowledge base to pull conversational material from.

There are those who come up and start talking to us very personably.  However, after about two minutes of chit-chat, they seem very flaky, insincere or superficial.  They really don’t know what they’re talking about but are sincerely trying to be relatable.  These are people who are friendly but not sociable.

Then there’s the person who seems to be able to carry on a conversation with everyone in the group.  You can learn a lot from these people, but as soon as you try to ask them something personal, they tend to regurgitate historical facts and figures.  They don’t show or share their feelings.  They don’t know how to connect with someone on an intimate level.  These people are sociable but not friendly.

Sometimes when we’re in a quandary, a distinction can help us significantly.  For example, we may feel that we are very relatable and try to talk to others.  Yet we find that people are not receptive to our initiative.  We feel alone and isolated.  One solution might be an attempt to isolate the problem.  Is it because we are not friendly?  Or is it because we are not sociable?  As you know from the distinction made, the correction required in the behavior will be dependant on this aspect.

Do you know it is possible to have a variety of friends but no social life?  We talk to them one-on-one and have heart-to-heart conversations, but rarely do we go out together and do new and interesting things.

Do you know it is possible to have a great social life and not too many friends?  We may have lots of common activities with other people that we participate in.  We may have similar interests and hobbies.  But we don’t know how anyone’s really doing and nobody may know something important/significant as the death of a relative has recently occurred.

The good news is that if you’re fortunate in one and not the other, the transition isn’t very difficult.  It’s just a distinction away.  And, if you are unfortunate in both areas . . .  Well, there’s hope for you too.  Just keep reading and come back to this chapter later.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Luck & Choice, Motivation & Talent

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Luck or choice?  Again, the age old question of circumstance or decision.  Drawing a comparison to motivation versus talent might be helpful here.

Assessment.com wrote an article that stated: “Talent is what we DO well naturally.  Motivation is what we LIKE to do naturally.”  We can only go so far in life by simply utilizing our God-given talents.  We will never be truly happy until we are doing what we like to do naturally.

We can say that luck is like talent.  It’s out of our control.  We either have it or we don’t.  True enough.  But then we also have to say that choice is like motivation.  We create it.  We are in control of it.  We make it happen.

How do we make motivation happen?  By our attitudes.  By our perspectives.  By learning more distinctions.  By learning to do more of the things that we like to do naturally.  We all have them, even if they are as simple as walking in the park.

Assessment.com also stated: “But then there are those talents that we really enjoy using.  These are the motivated talents, and this is where the magic is.”  Yes, we can combine our talents with our motivation to create a world we love.  This is one technique of creating the career of our dreams!  Think, what are my talents?  What are my motivations?  All sorts of personality tests are available to help us with these questions.

Why, then, do we find it so difficult to combine luck and choice?  We see them as such polar opposites that we tend to be stuck in one place or the other.  How do we combine luck and choice?  Simple.  Keep making choices.  Luck will happen by itself, whether good or bad.  Eventually, because of the law of statistics, we will have good luck.  And, in the process of continually making choices, we have strengthened our muscles to make better choices as we move forward.

What happens to most of us is that we stop making choices because we feel so betrayed by luck.  That’s creating our own destruction.  Because, by stopping, we forget how to make good choices.  We don’t exercise our ability to make good choices, and eventually only know how to make bad choices.  Remember, luck will happen anyway.  And, when good luck happens, do you want the know-how of making a good choice in that situation, or the frustration of the good luck being wasted because of a bad choice?

Orison Swett Marden, editor of Success Magazine says, “The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself.  It is not in your environment; it is not in luck or chance, or in the help of others; it is in yourself alone.”  By an unknown poet, “There is a choice you have to make, In everything you do.  And you must always keep in mind, The choice you make, makes you.”

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Memories & Dreams

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This chapter is an attempt not to make a distinction, but rather to create a similarity.  Memories and dreams are more the same than different.

I was sitting in an office once and I picked up a magazine which had an amazing slogan in one of its ads.  It read, “Dreams are only memories to be.”  Now, that’s positive thinking.  How would we dream if we knew we were simply creating our future?  Would we dream more often?  Well, psychologists know that visualizing the future helps to determine our future.  That’s also a good reason why we shouldn’t worry.

Remembering something is the act of playing something out in our imagination that has happened before.  Of course, that is a little subjective because what we recall may not be the absolute truth.  We usually tint the scenes with our own biases.  Knowing that, we should practice more “memory management.”  Memory management is making conscious decisions to recall certain memories (those memories which empower us) and not others.  Moreover, it is then coloring those memories in ways that empower us rather than hold us back.  We can all find an experience from the past that supports our current conviction.  We can all also find an experience from the past that does not support our current conviction.  The challenge is knowing that at any given time we are recalling a memory, it is not the only memory available to us.  In the moment, we think it is.

Dreams are created too, from our imagination.  The difference is only that the dreams look into a possible future rather than the past.  Since the subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between something from the past and something from the future, in both cases, we are simply conditioning ourselves to focus on the things that we imagine.  That’s why I say, when you dream, dream big.

Memories and dreams are only a matter of perspective.  If anything, dreams are more important because we have a clean slate to work from.  That is, rather than coloring a historical event, we can create a completely new event from scratch!  Now that’s powerful.  That’s also why imagination is more powerful than knowledge.

To those of us complaining about our pasts, stop it.  We have no excuse to do that anymore.  If we don’t like our memories, let’s create new ones.  Start dreaming.  It will create the best future for us.

I don’t know how “day-dreaming” ever became a negative term.  It is one of the most powerful and cheapest techniques for self improvement.  An anonymous person said, “Those who hear not the music think the dancer’s mad.”  Let’s not let other people stop us from dreaming just because they don’t understand the true benefit of it.  I can’t tell you how many times I dreamt of writing and promoting this book before it became a reality.  Now that you’re reading it, it’s a memory.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Friday, April 19, 2013

Reason & Excuse

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Most people will already feel that a reason is positive, and an excuse is negatively oriented.  But why?  What makes it so?

The kind of action each makes is the difference.  See, a reason propels us into forward action.  The reason I didn’t clean the bedroom is because I was waiting to do the cleaning after the big party on Friday night.  This is forward action because it implies that we are determined to clean the room, just at a later, more appropriate time.

An excuse usually holds us back.  I didn’t clean the room because I didn’t know what goes where.  That statement justifies the lack of action but doesn’t give any indication of when the responsibility will be dealt with.  That holds people back.  If being action-oriented, the next logical question might be, can you show me where everything goes so I can do it tomorrow?  We’ll notice that the question will not be asked with an excuse.  That question does transform an excuse into a good reason.

And that’s an important point, too.  If we have a habit of making excuses, the first transition may be to simply try to transform them into reasons.  When we catch ourselves, just ask, “What do I need to do next in order to move forward in this?”  We still need to be careful, though.  If we have a habit of consistently using the same reasons, then chances are that those reasons are now becoming excuses.

Ron Hale talks about another attribute that is associated with excuses.  That is, guilt.  This is another way of determining whether a reason is really an excuse.  Let’s ask ourselves, “Do we feel guilty from this justification?”  If we feel guilty, then we are making an excuse.  The good news is that most people don’t want to feel guilty.  So at this point, we’re killing two birds with one stone.  That is, getting out of our guilt, and moving towards positive action.

In another perspective, it doesn’t matter if we have a reason or an excuse.  Neither of them really matters because we always do what we want regardless.  We just have reasons and excuses to justify our actions.  Sometimes, it is better to say nothing and just do what we want.

Because we live in the real world and often need to be accountable to others, we’ll still have times where we need to justify our actions.  In those times, let’s lean towards reasons.  Pope John Paul II says, “An excuse is worse and more terrible than a lie, for an excuse is a lie guarded.”  The “hidden truth” is usually what we really want to do but don’t want to admit to anyone else.  Decide to do it because it is the right thing to do, or decide to be honest about not doing it.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Need & Cause

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A need is personal and inward.  We need things for our own survival, health, wealth, and sanity.  A cause is something bigger than us.  A cause can be community, nationally, or globally oriented.  A cause is for the benefit of a larger group of people, whatever attributes that group may possess.

Like other fine traits, looking at a bigger picture actually ends up helping us the most.  That’s one of the great fascinations of our universe.  In fact, many times we will exert more energy, time, and money into the greater benefit of others than we would in ourselves.  I don’t think that speaks badly for us as individuals, but speaks volumes for us as a global community.

I was discussing with a friend the other day how much of our world, how much of our economy, how many professions, are involved in keeping our society civil.  Do you know how much money we spend on law enforcement?  Do you know how much money we spend on the court system?  How prosperous could our society be without spending this money?  This is all because we are not really a true community.  We a bunch of individuals who don’t trust each other, but rather we abuse each other’s trust.

I know I’m really talking about a utopia when I imagine a society that doesn’t need to enforce its laws.  But one step in that direction is for us to move from a mentality of need to a mentality of cause.  After all, a need is personal and a cause is community oriented.  If we, as a society, could all focus on the needs of the society before the needs of ourselves, where would we be today?

I was stuck in a place of need as I thrived to break into the personal development system.  Sure, I made successful presentations and delivered great workshops, but my need alone didn’t do it.  Once I found a cause, to spread my unique message of higher communication, I found the path of least resistance.  I never dreamt that that path would be writing a book.  There are a lot of people I knew who not only were better writers, but probably read ten times as many books as I had.  When we have a cause, we are less concerned with what the route to our destination is.  With need, we tend to want all our “wants” or (at least our assumptions of wants) along the way.

When we have a cause, we’re willing and able to do more.  We become more flexible.  We have more drive.  And, in the process, we become better individuals.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Motivation, Courage, Encourage & Bravery

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Motivation is about doing something that will help you do more or be more.  Courage is about doing something because it is the right thing to do.  In fact, doing something courageous may even mean that we will suffer heavy consequences.  Being courageous may not move us forward instantly, but it builds our character and moves us forward in the long run.  Motivation usually has an instant feeling of gratification once we act.

Courage usually has an instant feeling of pain as soon as we act, yet feels more rewarding in the end.  Pablo Casals says, “Each person has inside a basic decency and goodness.  If he listens to it and acts on it, he is giving a great deal of what it is the world needs most.  It is not complicated, but it takes courage.  It takes courage for a person to listen to his own goodness and act on it.”

Encouragement, I say, then is to give courage to someone else.  Many people think that they are being encouraging when, in fact, all they have said is “Yeah, you can do it!”  Well, that is a weak prayer for motivation, and far from encouragement.  What was said about doing the right thing?  What was said about goodness and decency?  When encouraging someone, we need to really jump into their world.  Feel the fears they are feeling.  Know the sacrifices that must endure.  And, then, show them how doing the courageous thing is the right thing anyway.

We must also remember that encouraging someone doesn’t mean just supporting them in what they want to do.  It could be quite the opposite.  A person may be thinking about cheating on a test.  Encouraging them is truly motivating them not to cheat, for deploying courage is also deploying ethics.

Bravery is a higher level of courage.  Everyone has varying amounts of courage, whether they choose to utilize them or not.  Being brave sets one apart from the others.  Bravery is not only doing what is courageous, but it is going the extra mile.  It involves risking more, having more faith, and willing to endure more sacrifices for the greater good of all.  William Shakespeare in Julius Caesar, Act II, Scene 2, says “Cowards die many times before their deaths; The valiant never taste of death but once.”

How do we become braver in our lives?  Simply by using the vocabulary more often.  Language creates our being.  I notice that we tend to use this vocabulary more with children.  If a child is scared of a bully at school, we tell them to be brave.  However, if a friend of ours is going through a death in the family, we may tend to sympathize with them and help them cheer up.  Rarely do we encourage them to be brave.

Bravery is to the spirit what motivation is to the mind.  Be brave.  Tell others how they can be brave and how they are being brave.  Be encouraging in the true sense of the word.

I don’t know why the term “walk your talk” has a negative connotation.  If someone is not walking their talk, so be it.  At least they know the secret of change.  That is, to change our walk, we must first change our talk.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Taxation -- The Secret to Financial Freedom

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Hey there everyone!!

When I was fourteen years old, my mentor took me to a seminar that I will never forget.  In there, I remember the speaker talking about how most people focus on saving ten cents on toothpaste, and neglect the biggest expense of their life.  That, of course, is taxation.

Some have been condition to believe that taxes are too complicated, that they’ll never understand them, that they will have to pay them no matter what, and that the money is all going to a good cause.  All these beliefs reinforce their reluctance to understand, and thus keeps them exactly where they are financially--even if they do make a ton of extra money.

Wasn’t it G.I. Joe who taught “knowing is half the battle”?  The economy is designed for business owners, who can deduct their lifestyle expenses against profits.  In the past, it may have been difficult to start a business, because it would take so much effort and start-up capital.

But now, with options like the Inspired Living App that only costs $9.95 a month, it’s an obsolete argument.  Check it out at http://ordinarywords.com/living

Remember that Chinese philosopher Wang Yangming said “To know and not to do is not to know”.  Do you know that having a home-based business can save you a significant amount of money and improve your overall living standards?

We’re coming out with a brand new app to help entrepreneurs keep track of their business expenses, and properly make deductions appropriately formatted for their accountants.  It’s called iLA Tax Shield. 

If you already have a business (or are self-employed), you will be able to get this app only.  If you don’t have a business and want one, you can simply get the Inspired Living App, and our “iLA Tax Shield” app together.

The industrial revolution is over, and more and more people will need to find part-time employment, contract work, freelance jobs, or better yet, become entrepreneurs.

This is your time.  Robert Kiyosaki said, “The moment a person knows how to make money out of nothing or with other people’s money or a bank’s money, they enter a different world. It’s a world almost exactly opposite the world of those in the E [Employee] and S [Self-employed] quadrants where they experience hard work, high taxes, and low returns on investment.”

You can even join for FREE.  But they say I’m not supposed to tell you that, because then you probably won’t do anything with it.

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Quit & Exit

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The idea of this distinction came to me as I used lots of different software applications.  I noticed that some of them have “Exit” in the File menu, whereas others have “Quit.”  Of course, Internet Explorer now has “Close” - leave it to Microsoft to screw up this chapter in my book, too!

Back to the distinction . . .  Quit has a negative feeling associated to it.  A feeling of loss or of an unachieved goal.  Exit, simply implies a constructive decision to leave, or an inevitable ending.

Did you quit your last job?  That’s the term many people use.  But often, people have made a conscious decision to change their career path.  That’s not quitting.  It’s changing priorities.  So why make ourselves feel bad by saying, “I quit!”

If quitting has a negative connotation, why do we ask people, “When are you going to quit smoking?”  Nobody wants to feel like a quitter.  So we are actually applauding the bad habit with our bad use of vocabulary.  How about, “When are you going to exit this phase of your lifestyle?”

Sometimes people make the opposite error.  They leave a relationship that they couldn’t get to work and say, “I had to leave (exit) that relationship.”  Sometimes, what we mean to say is, “I quit the relationship.  I gave up.”

In England, rather than having “Exit” signs, the signs read, “Way Out.”  Though amusing to some, I think it provides a little bit of insight.  Making an exit is simply finding the way out.  Quitting, however, is forcing a way out.  When we quit, there are lots of ramifications and consequences that we must deal with.  When we exit, usually the transition is fairly smooth.  Moreover, when we quit, we are likely to repeat history and make the same errors or find ourselves in the same situations as the ones we were attempting to escape from.

Norman Vincent Peale said, “It’s always too early to quit.”  And, Tom Stoppard said, “Every exit is an entry somewhere.”  Are you going to quit, or are you going to make an exit?  Whatever you decide, don’t decide just yet - read at least a couple more chapters first.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Honest & Sincere

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Is honesty the best policy?  Maybe ninety-nine percent of the time.  You know the classic example where honesty may be an exception.  A girlfriend asks her boyfriend, “Do I look fat in this dress?”  What’s the right response?

In the situation of telling the girlfriend that she does not look fat, I believe that the boyfriend is still being sincere.  There is a desire on the man’s part to want the girl to have a good self-esteem and to make her feel sexy.  The man is sincerely conditioning himself to love his girlfriend even more.

Honesty is a technicality.  Sincerity is about being whole and content with our words.  Sincerity takes into account feelings.  We can be brutally honest and really hurt others because we didn’t consider their feelings.

That’s not to say that we should compromise our honesty all the time.  Our society is built on truth, trust, and reason which all stem from being honest.  It’s funny how honesty is considered a virtue.  It’s more like a fundamental building block of civilizations.  Without it, there’s no progress, innovation, or prosperity.

Sincerity is built on top of honesty.  We must know the truth before we can exercise any discretion to consider what is right.  Without knowing the truth, how can we ever do what is right?  Thomas Henry Huxley says, “Learn what is true in order to do what is right.”

There is no absolute truth anyway.  Our truth is from a very exact standpoint which is different from someone else’s.  That’s why it is important to jump to the paradigm of sincerity for it helps us to see a bigger perspective.  Two people can both be honest from their own perspective, and they’ll continue fighting about what the real truth is.  But when they take on the notion of being sincere, then they can both look towards the same end.  Antoin Du Saint Exupery said, “Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction.”

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Attitude, Effort & Prayer

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I believe that these are the three attribute pillars to success.  Think about it.  Any quality that demonstrates a successful character can be somehow grouped into this trinity.  Persistence, for example, is an element of effort.  Confidence is an element of attitude.  And even luck, can arguably be an element of prayer.

I think when most of us are striving to reach that next rung of success, we become stuck in one of the paradigms.  We might think that it all has to do with effort.  So, we work harder, we work longer hours, we cause more strain and stress on ourselves.  We get twice as many clients or another job.  We really go overboard.

Then, there are those of us who get fixated on attitude.  We try to exert for conviction and smile more.  We say affirmations to ourselves whenever we get a free moment.  We read positive books rigorously on the subway or in the waiting room.  We sign up for every extra curricular activity there is.

The third group becomes much more spiritual.  They try all sorts of holistic approaches to medicine if they are sick.  They meditate for hours on end or take up a new practice in yoga.  They may even check out the neighborhood Church of Scientology.

The truth is that life of course is an integration of these three pillars.  When we are in the framework of one, we tend to go to the extreme because that is all our limited vision can see.  All three of these pillars are important to ensure our success.  If we exercise each one in moderation, we are sure to succeed.

This also doesn’t mean that we need to allocate 33.33% of our resources to each pillar.  What we might consider doing is evaluating how much time we’re spending on each, and how effective each is to us personally for the situation that we are currently in.  It may be that we are very good at two of the pillars but have absolutely no experience in the third.  In this instance, it may be wise to spend some extra time exploring that pillar in detail.

When reaching for our goal, let us work like it depends on us, pray like it depends on God, and act as if it we have already achieved it.

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Care & Love

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There are times when we both love and care for someone.  There are also times when we merely care for someone, or merely have love for them.

Caring for someone asks of us to look after their well-being.  Of course, we may care for our children, but we love them too.  As a baby-sitter, we have the obligation of caring for the baby, but may not necessarily have any feelings of love.  Not a very sophisticated distinction here.

However, it is important to realize that there are times when loving someone truly requires us not to care for them.  In a sense, we do want their well being in our heart, but we must endure the sacrifice of letting them discover the hardships of life.  For example, this is true in raising children.  There comes a time when we must not spoil our children but let them make their own mistakes.  Some things can only be learned through experience.

If we baby them, they will not learn.  Therefore, we must learn to love without active caring.  This is true in intimate relationships too.  Haven’t we heard of those being accused of “mothering” their mate?  That’s an example of going too far beyond in caring.  Even in business, if we care too much about a particular client, we’ll find ourselves heading towards bankruptcy.

Being happily in love means caring enough for the other person that we let them grow in their way.  Sure, we offer guidance, concern, and heart, but we leave space for them to explore their own possibilities.  Love is about seeing beauty and letting it spring free, not controlling it.

Caring is subjective, for it is superimposing our values and dreams onto their life.  Therefore, by trying to care for someone, you are in fact judging them for where they are and where you would like them to be.  Mother Theresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

Let's love the world together...

Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Teach, Educate & Train

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I used the dictionary to see if it could help me in writing about this distinction.  Surprisingly, it did help.  But my hope for quoting anything wasn’t fulfilled.  I think most dictionaries try to cover so many bases that a word is used, that they provide twenty-four different definitions.  We really must consume and summarize those definitions internally (or categorize them into groups) to easily formulate any distinctions between different words.  Thankfully, I’ve done that for you in this chapter.

We may think that because teachers teach in an educational system, that these two words might mean the same thing.  Not quite.  To educate someone means to bring forth a new way of thinking, of reasoning, or evaluating different concepts.  It may have to deal with a new paradigm of research or presentation.  It may deal with exploring new ideas of morality or ethics.  And, like this book, it may introduce you to a higher depth of communication.

That’s what an education system should do, and hopefully that’s what happens as our society progresses from grade to grade, from elementary school to high school to college.  So what do teachers do?  They have a specific curriculum which they present to a class, day in and day out.  They utilize the same techniques to teach the same information only to different people.  The first couple of days of a class may be an “education” if the students aren’t familiar with the material.  After that, it’s reinforcing specific ideas and knowledge through lecturing, engaging in exercises, and memorization.

I may be biased in this, but I feel cultural exchange programs, for example, are more of an educational program because they allow the participants to constantly explore new ways of being, coping with different situations, and becoming flexible with an unknown outcome.  That’s why everyone usually learns completely different things from the same program.  That’s because each person is getting outside of their comfort zone, not a teacher’s arbitrary box.

Personal development programs are usually educational programs because they take us to a new paradigm of thinking.  They get us outside of the box.  Now, if we participate in the same program over a long period of time, we are then being trained.  Training happens when we repeatedly go through the same exercises, workshops or practices that help us reach a specific measurable result.

No logic or reasoning is needed for training.  We can’t train everyone to do calculus, but we can train everyone to be a cashier at McDonald’s.  That’s because there’s a synthesized training system that can accurately predict performance based on adequate training.  And that’s not to say anything bad about McDonald’s or being a cashier.  Quite the contrary, it’s a wonderful and powerful system which has revolutionized not only fast food, but many industries we enjoy today.

The advantage of training is that it is very predictable.  The advantage of educating is that it takes our minds and hearts to places that we haven’t been before.  The advantage of teaching, well, I think teaching is pretty obsolete.  That’s why we have millions of people coming out of high school who can’t find jobs.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Sirius Movie about UFO’s & Energy

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Watch the trailer here:
http://ordinarywords.com/sirius

Hey there everyone!!

“Sirius” is a feature length documentary that follows Dr. Steven Greer – an Emergency room doctor turned UFO researcher – as he struggles to disclose top secret information about classified energy & propulsion techniques. Along the way, Dr. Greer investigates new technology and sheds light on criminal and murderous suppression. He accumulates over 100 Government, Military, and Intelligence Community witnesses who testify on record about their first-hand experience with the cover-up.

Though he feels the pressure of an imminent assassination attempt, he comes upon an amazing find: a possible ancient E.T. skeleton, 6 inches long, is discovered in the Atacama desert. Dr. Greer, along with his team, backed by crowd funding supporters, travel to Europe to get a sample of bone fragment in order to have an IVY league university run genetic tests on the skeleton. What they find will completely change the reality of human existence.

While on this odyssey, the audience gains a whole new perspective on technology, human evolution, and clandestine organizations who have manipulated and controlled the public for centuries.

Watch the trailer here:
http://ordinarywords.com/sirius

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Persist & Persevere

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Here’s a common example of words that we may use interchangeably.  Maybe because they’re all under the same pillar of effort, that we don’t realize the differences.

Persistence has to do with overcoming an obstacle.  When we see hurdles or roadblocks, we need to figure out how to jump over them, go around them, or knock them down.  That’s persistence.  It is forcing us to achieve success despite all the stumbling blocks.  If we are trying to start a new business for example, and we cannot get a bank loan, then we must persist.  We must find alternative ways to get capital.  Perseverance in this case won’t help us at all.

Perseverance is about ignoring and enduring hardship.  In any pursuit we may have in life, we are going to have problems and challenges.  We’ll also notice that some of those challenges can’t be dealt with through strategy or increased effort.  What we must do is endure the struggle.  We must ignore the naysayer.  We must persevere.  If we are running a business for example, and there is an economic dip that affects our sales, then we must persevere.  We must endure the slump in growth or maybe even a dip in stability.  We must survive the storms.  There is very little that we can do in that time to persist.

Both persistence and perseverance are characteristics we want to utilize to become successful.  A valuable distinction, then, is to know and understand which one to use in our times of challenge.  And maybe that’s why some people are so cynical about these traits - because they misuse them and then complain that they don’t work.  Of course, if we try to persist to get out of the rain in the middle of the ocean while there is a storm, then we won’t be successful and we may even complain.  If we try to persevere in our career during times of corporate change and rightsizing, then we’re likely to get laid off and complain about it.

And, without fail, there will be times when we need to do both.  We need to persist and persevere.  Network marketing is a good example for this.  We need to persist and keep showing people our business plan.  That may mean that we need counseling to improve our approach in contacting, enhance our presentation skills, or modify our technique for doing a follow-through.  And we need to persevere as we get all the “No’s” and all the rejections.  We need to endure that pain in order to find the people that do want to be in our business.

Remember that there are probably quotes that don’t fully agree with my distinction.  That’s not to say that those quotes are bad or my distinction is false.  Don’t try to mismatch as I discussed in the introduction of Volume I.  Let’s use the distinction where it empowers us.  If we don’t use it, we’ll lose it.  Thomas Edison said, “The value in an idea lies in the using of it.”

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Monday, April 15, 2013

Client & Customer

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I was taking a career development course last year with KPMG Consulting.  The course in general was very good, but I was surprised as the teacher referred to previous students as “clients.”  I felt that was a bad choice of words.  It made me feel like she wasn’t facilitating a course to empower others, but to simply make money and do her job.

Minimally, I would think she would refer to past pupils as students.  Better yet, I would simply refer to them as “people who were part of the course.”  After all, it is all the people in a particular course who steer it into the direction it goes.

The technical difference between a client and a customer may be that a client is another business entity whereas a customer is an end consumer.  That is, business-to-business transactions are done with suppliers, partners, and clients.  Business-to-consumer transactions are done with customers.  There are, of course, all sorts of exceptions which bring us to the distinction I propose.

Think of how it feels to be called a client.  Think of how it feels to be called a customer.  Being a client makes us feel like only one in many.  It makes us feel that we are dealing with an automated system rather than a real person.  We are getting a very specific service done, but that service is exactly the same as if it would be anyone else in the world.

As a customer, we feel a little bit more personal.  Yes, we are being served, but we feel special.  We may feel like we’ll get treatment that might not be the same as the treatment someone else receives.  Note the first six letters of customer is “custom.”  And remember, most companies call it “Customer Service”, not “Client Services.”

Lots of companies are starting to break out of even this bad habit.  For example, Rogers Communications has a program where people can become VIP Members.  Even as a regular “member,” we feel part of the entity.  Chapters’ has a program where people become Avid Readers.  Sometimes the new-age terms may sound cheesy, but at least the intent is sincere.

Another important distinction may be that while we attain clients, we develop customers.  We develop a business, to which there is a specific clientele, and go and find that clientele.  Or, we speculate a market for a particular service, develop that service, and then have the customers flock to us.  Clients usually know exactly what they want and we must give them exactly that.  Customers rarely know what they want, and it is the responsibility of the business to educate and move the customer towards action.

Steve Jobs said it very well: “You can't just ask customers what they want and then try to give that to them. By the time you get it built, they'll want something new. It took us three years to build the NeXT computer. If we'd given customers what they said they wanted, we'd have built a computer they'd have been happy with a year after we spoke to them--not something they'd want now.”

A client is static, a customer is dynamic.  It is harder to please a customer than it is to please a client.  But customers will always be more loyal.

This is more of an arguable distinction.  For example, Mark Victor Hansen says that when we first serve someone, they’re a customer.  When they start to have some loyalty to us, then they are our client.  That, too, does sound logical.  It just goes to show us how personal distinctions can be.  Remember, these distinctions are not meant to illustrate a truth, but rather to get us to think about and be conscious of our thoughts and communications.

If you are an avid reader of the “Dictionary of Distinctions” series, or if you have seen me speak to audiences many times, I hope you don’t consider yourself a customer or a client.  I hope you consider yourself a valued “member” of the distinctions community.  You’re a part of the success team, and I both appreciate and thank you for that.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Now & Current

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I didn’t think I would procrastinate on this chapter!

The distinction in this chapter is best understood by the context in which a change occurs.  “Now” implies a context of a difference in state (the past was different than the present), whereas “current” implies a context of the continuation in state (the past is the same as the present).  Now that you understand the distinction, we can move towards the differences in application.

The good news is that most people correctly use the two words in their proper orientation.  Seldom do most of us pick up on these great clues in conversation.  For example, if we ask someone what they do, they might answer, “I’m currently working as an engineer.”  That tells us that they probably have been working as an engineer for some time.  On the other hand, if someone says, “I’m now selling legal insurance,” that tells us that they have recently been doing something else and have gone through a change.  This information can be a great opener to further questions and gain knowledge about an individual.

We can also use this language distinction to move us forward.  If someone were to ask us, “How’s the volunteer recruitment coming along?” we could answer one of two ways.  “I’m calling prospects now” gives an indication that we just started.  Even though there might have been a lot of preparation work before hand, using the “now” keyword may make us look like we’re slow on the ball.  “I’m currently in the process of calling prospects” gives an indication that we’re moving forward.  We may have called a dozen people already, or be half way through our list.

Are you one of those people who is always up-to-date with current events?  Lots of people are current, but they don’t live in the “now.”  Now has a distinctive zing to it.  It’s about living the moment.  Be here now.  While you’re reading this, don’t think about your job, your last week’s party, or your grocery list.  Live the moment.  Cherish each moment.

Those that are merely current may be knowledgeable.  But those who live in the “now” are highly focused.  The focus is what creates drive and power in conversation and in our lives.

When deciding which word to use, also consider the homonyms that may exist for each word.  For example, current is also used in electronics.  Current is also the force that moves waters.  Both those definitions may have a negative or at least intense connotation.  If we can so easily choose whichever word we want, why not pick the word that has the least possibility of confusion.  Pick the word with the least homonyms.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Recognize & Acknowledge

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Both are important.  To understand the differences, we must first lay out some terminology.  The person/entity that is doing the recognizing or acknowledging we will call the “giver.”  The person/entity that is being recognized or acknowledged we will call the “receiver.”

In recognition, the giver is usually a mass number of people, an organization, or big entity.  The receiver may be an individual, but little is known about that individual except what the individual is being recognized for.  For example, in a large corporation, an individual may be recognized for being the top salesman; however, very few other details are divulged regarding the individual.  The receiver could also be a group of people or an organization.  For example, an award might be given by Easter Seals to our company as a whole, for raising the most funds.

Recognition is important because it allows people or organizations to shine in the limelight.  Many times, that is what motivates people to do more.  It is like a moment of fame.  Acknowledgment is important because it is more personal and authentic.

Acknowledgment doesn’t happen in a ceremony or on stage.  The giver is usually an individual or a small group of people, and the receiver is always an individual or family.  Acknowledging isn’t about whom has the most, got the most, and won the most.  It is about something specific a person has done that has made a difference to someone else.

We acknowledge someone for being a good friend and going the extra mile.  We may acknowledge someone for taking our side with the boss.  We may acknowledge someone for the incredible sense of caring they have instilled in their children.  Acknowledging someone is showing them that we notice and we appreciate whatever the person has done.

Acknowledgment has been rooted as a technical term to confirm something.  But acknowledgment is a lot more.  We must try to acknowledge people for their efforts more often, for that is what makes other people feel good.  And, that’s what makes us feel good, too.

Acknowledgment is also going that extra step.  Anyone can recognize a problem.  Those who are willing to acknowledge a problem are already on the pathway to responsibility and correction.

Remember, we may recognize community (a familiar face, a group goal achieved) and differences (competition).  We can only acknowledge authenticity (something for what it is, without any kind of comparison).  Recognition can be unwanted.  Consider what Fred Allen said, “A celebrity is a person who works hard all his life to become well known, then wears dark glasses to avoid being recognized.”  Acknowledgment is always well received.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Work, Job, Profession & Career

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When I jotted these words down, it wasn’t because I knew their distinction, just that I knew we all use these words almost interchangeably.  There must be a good distinction, right?  I think so.  I group the words in a hierarchy.

Work is at the bottom.  Nobody likes it.  It gives us a place to do different odd jobs.  We’re not committed to hours - it may be part time.  We’re not committed to tasks - it may involve a variety of different work.  It’s just work that needs to be done to get us some money.  That hopefully will  transform into a job.  A job is a steady means of income.  We may or may not have a definite job description, but we will certainly have fixed hours.  It’s a short-term means of employment.

A profession is something we’re an expert at.  We either studied it extensively in school or have a ton of experience in.  We’re good at what we do and we are proud of it.  A career is an evolution of professions, whether different or same.  As we become more of an expert, we may decide to do more specializing.  A doctor may evolve his career into being a surgeon.  A lawyer may evolve her career into a corporate tax lawyer.

These are the days that more and more people change careers, the average being three careers in one’s lifetime.  However, it is important to realize that we are only making a career shift by changing or evolving professions.  We don’t make a career shift by changing jobs!  That’s called “floating” or “finding yourself.”  Rarely does it help us become more successful because we don’t stay anywhere long enough to take any huge benefit from our experiences.

When we change professions and transform our career, we are brining a lot with us.  We are bringing a ton of experience from another industry.  Although not relevant, that type of “world” experience really shows itself over a period of time.  Sometimes we may even take a pay-cut when changing careers.  However, we’ll also notice in the long term, that the pay-off matures into a profitable investment, maybe not just financially, but in all sorts of other avenues.

How do we use these distinctions?  Don’t try to jump from the bottom to the top.  If we are “working” on a particular goal, don’t try to make it into a career overnight.  Turn the work into a job, turn the job into a profession, and turn the profession into a career.

And, if we want to change careers, don’t say “I’m working like a dog.”  Say, “My current profession isn’t giving me all the rewards I thought it would.”  Don’t think we have to start from ground zero just because we’re making a career shift.  Lots of careers have tons of things in common.  For example, being a doctor or lawyer both require us to manage an office, be a little bit of an entrepreneur, create a “customer” base and do accounting or hire a secretary.

As we climb the hierarchy, we’ll notice that less and less “work” is being done.  The simplest attribute is when we are doing something we are good at (profession), we have a bigger self-esteem about it and do it more enthusiastically.  Most successful people will tell you that they aren’t doing work; they’re doing what they love.

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Love,
Danish Ahmed, blind visionary